I struggle with restlessness. Sometimes it looks like frustration that the world is so broken and a feeling of powerlessness to change it. Other times it looks like a desire to do more, be more, and maybe even be somewhere else. I think it’s influenced by culture, both in the world and in the church. As a working mom, the world tells me I need to be 100% mom and 100% committed to work. I can never quite measure up to the world’s expectations. The church’s influence is a little different, and can be just as dangerous if not viewed from the right perspective. It says I need to be a great wife, a godly example to my children, involved in church activities, and volunteering to serve. It all feels like too much sometimes. Restless creates an instability of temperament, sometimes on a high of “I can do ALL THE THINGS!” only to crash and burn when I can’t keep up, leading to a low of “I can’t do ANYTHING right!”
This is a man who has been chased out of town, beaten, imprisoned, participated in the martyr and imprisonment of Christians, shipwrecked, bitten by a snake, and on and on. But he’s also traveled all over the place, made disciples, had an encounter with Jesus Christ that left him blind, been healed of blindness, and reached the previously unreached on the front lines building the Church. How can he possibly ride out the highs and lows of life with a spirit of contentment?
I think there are two ways: gratitude and a view of eternity.
Gratitude can only be accomplished through a right relationship with Jesus Christ. If we aren’t ready to acknowledge that the God who created the universe stepped down and became a Man to save us from all the ways we’ve messed up and all the good we didn’t feel like doing, it’s hard to be grateful. Only a person who knows they deserve death but God loved them so much He saved them can be truly grateful. The overwhelming gratitude for our salvation permeates the rest of our lives. We can be grateful for all the big things and the little things in our lives because our soul has been redeemed and is in right relationship with God.
God knows the world isn’t right…yet. He hears the cries of the hurting, feels the pain of the oppressed, and carried the weight of sin all the way to the cross.
He promises He’s big enough to handle our restlessness:
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
He trades our anxiety for peace when we approach His throne with a spirit of gratitude.
Again in 1 Thessalonians He promises to still our restless hearts when we:
We can find rest and peace in a world of ongoing turmoil knowing that God is ultimately in charge, He is good, and He has a plan for the redemption of the world. We can do the good things He sets out for us, knowing that He often calls us to more than we can handle both because He wants us to rely on His divine strength and because He knows we’re often tempted to take credit for the good only He can accomplish.
The other way to settle our restless hearts is to place our peace in eternity rather than the present time. Depending on the day, and sometimes even the hour, our lives can swing from excitement to despair and confidence to insecurity. The only way to stabilize our souls is to keep our eyes on God and His promise to make all things right in the end.
“But according to his promise we are waiting for new heavens and a new earth in which righteousness dwells.”
1 Peter 3:13
God isn’t limited by time and space. He is able to see the beginning from the end, the entire story all at once. We can have peace knowing that He is making all things new, even when we can’t see it. We know that He is working for good in us and through us, even when we can’t see it. And we know that He is coming back to make all things right, even if we don’t know when that will be.
A few weeks ago I spoke with the youth group at our church about 4 Lies That Keep Us From Our Divine Destiny (click here). In it I focused on my experiences as a teenager, how what I believed about God affected the way I lived. I thought about how what I saw in the lives of the adults in our church shaped what I thought Christians looked like and how God worked in the world. I thought about my own example both for our children and the kids we work with at church and in other ministries. And I want my life to point people to genuine relationships with the Savior of the world, Jesus. When people see me and see my life, I want them to see Jesus. I want them to know I need Jesus, that I have failed at saving myself and He accepted me when I fell down at His feet. I desire a life that’s impossible without God, a life that is so reliant on His provision and His grace, that people can’t help but see Him when they see me.
Praying for a life that is dependent on God is dangerous, frightening even. But I’m slowly coming to realize the truth that even my next breath will only come by the grace of the Creator who designed and fuels my body. I cannot live without Him, literally.
A life in full pursuit of God and His will for our lives can only be accomplished by being rooted in the truth. And Truth is found in the Word of God. I talked about how I’m attempting to read through the Bible in a year in Where is Your Gaze? (click here) Today I want to share some of the verses that have touched my heart and I hope will speak to yours. I’ve created them to be printable so they can be hung up around the house, the car, or stashed in a purse.
Lord Jesus, we know your Word is living and active, able to speak directly to our souls. When we read your Word we find Truth. Speak to us today through these verses. May Your words cover us in Grace. Strengthen us to leave behind anything that’s a barrier to living fully for you. Free us to do the good works you have prepared for us. In the powerful name of Jesus we pray, Amen.
Recently a friend asked me to speak to our church’s youth group about my experience as a teenager. I started to look through old pictures and my journals, remembering me as a teen. Seeing the pictures and reading my own words in my teenager handwriting brought me back to the complicated girl trying to grow into a woman that I was twenty-some years ago. When I considered what to share, I knew it had to be more than just about me, it needed to have a take-away for the kids listening. Lately God has been speaking to me about the lies I’ve believed in my life. And reliving my teenage self revealed four of them that almost derailed what God wants to do in and through my life. Here are the four lies I found woven into my life.
I Am Alone
As a teenager I believed I was all alone in this world. I felt isolated because I was afraid if anyone really knew me, they wouldn’t like me. I carried shame from some things I did as a child which led to a profound lack of self-worth. My only real friend was my dog Cody. I worked with him and showed him in 4H from the time I was 10 until I was 16. He was an amazing listener, never judged me, and was always happy when I came home.
But as funny and sad as that is, I want to let you know today that we are not alone. There is One who understands us, because He created us. And because of His great love for us, He humbled himself to take on the form of a human to die for us. But not just to die. He came to conquer death so we could live.
Having a living, breathing relationship with the God of the Universe is more than good and bad and right and wrong. When we give our hearts to God, He makes us new. He gives us life that will go on forever, and He sets us on a path only we can walk, our divine destiny. And God will never leave you alone. Hebrews says:
You are not alone. And I want to tell you having even one person (or a dog) in the world who sees you can be enough. But don’t be satisfied with just being seen by another person. We all need friendships. Don’t waste years of your life being afraid of other people. You have to risk, put yourself out there, and be vulnerable with people in order to have deep connections and deep friendships. You may be rejected by some, but remember your identity is not dependent on what everyone thinks about you. Go back to God and ask Him to help you find the people you need. As a grown woman who can only now tell you I’ve found my people in this world, don’t waste years of your life hiding. You can’t live the life God intended for you without godly friends standing by your side, calling you out, and holding you up when you need it.
Nothing Will Ever Change
High school seemed to drag on forever for me. I hated it, well a lot of it. And I couldn’t imagine life beyond high school. I felt completely stuck. But I wasn’t stuck. And neither are you. If nothing else, time will carry you forward. You are not now who you will always be. You are not now where you will always be. Make decisions, deliberate choices to do new things, meet new people, go new places when possible. But don’t lose sight of what you already have. God is with you now. And He’s already in your tomorrow. In a world of constant change, He’s your constant. He has always been and always will be. Get to know Him so you can trust Him as you go. He has made you new. He is making you new.
I couldn’t have imagined the life I have now when I was a teenager. I know time sometimes feels like it moves very slowly. But I want to tell you that it moves faster and faster the older you get. So learn what you can and do what you can where you are now. Because you have no idea where God will take you tomorrow.
What I Do Doesn’t Matter
What you do now will affect your path for the rest of your life. When I was 16, I was recruited by a friend to go to downtown Grand Rapids with a man serving the city’s homeless population. As a sheltered, suburban teenager, it was eye-opening. It was like seeing the “other side” of life. It was faith in action, more than words, more than songs. That man was doing something that mattered. We walked all over the city, visiting with people under highway overpasses, in alleys, and all the dark, forgotten places in the city. After my mom found out where we went, I was forbidden from going again because it was too dangerous (She was probably right). But I couldn’t unsee the injustice and poverty. That one night shaped my compassion for the poor and those on the other side of society.
Partly as a result of that experience, when the opportunity came up to tutor kids in the Black Hills, I said yes. And that led to us moving to the Black Hills and serving there for nine years.
The decisions you make and the opportunities you say yes to now will shape you for the rest of your life. Don’t take it too seriously or brush it off as just something old people say. And don’t let anyone discredit you because of your age. You have the opportunity to get involved with meaningful and world-changing experiences right now. Think about what stirs your heart, what moves you, and find a way to get involved. You don’t have to wait for the perfect time. Because there will never be a perfect time. One of the earliest verses I ever memorized was Micah 6:8. It talks about what God desires from the work of our lives.
I Need to Know What Happens Next
I’m a planner. I’ve spent years of my life trying to plan it out . I’ve struggled with anxiety and panic attacks because I felt totally out of control. I’m going to drop this truth on you right now: Life is unpredictable. There will be victories and tragedies. The only constant is God. He will be with you through it all.
When I graduated from high school I had my whole life mapped out. I was going to get my Master’s Degree in physical therapy then go around the world with the Peace Corps, meet a handsome man somewhere out in the field and get married. One problem, I met the man I would marry on the first day of college. And he had no intention of joining the Peace Corps after college.
Turned out the joke was on him because as I said before, we ended up living in the Black Hills, which can be like another world at times.
That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t care about tomorrow or make plans for your future. It just means we need to take into account the big God we serve and that He has the right to alter our plans. In James it says:
Make plans. But let God be the ultimate authority on where you go and what you do. When making decisions, you won’t always get it right. So when you fail, which you will, I hope you understand that God is strong enough to redeem your wrong turns. He will use them to teach you, to grow your faith in Him, and give you compassion for others who struggle in the same way. God’s plan, with all the up’s, down’s, and sideways is better, more meaningful, more transformative, more incredible than anything I could have planned out. Get to know Him. Knowing Him will help you make better decisions. Don’t be paralyzed by fear of the future. Some choices you make will be good and others will not. But don’t miss out on what He has for you because you’re scared or because you think you can do it better. Trust me, I know how that works out. Life is much better when you live within the will of God. And you can know His will by knowing Him. And if you let Him, all those life experiences – both good and bad – will transform you into the person He created you to be.
A Prayer for Us
My greatest prayer for all of us today is that we would come to know and love God, surrendering our lives to Him. Because He is who He says He is. He loves us all and can be trusted to take us where we’re supposed to go. My hope for you is that you go into the day knowing that you are not alone, that other people struggle too, and have made mistakes. But know this. God will be with you and will never leave you.
It’s been almost 20 years since I graduated from high school. I didn’t know all the twists and turns my life would take from then until now. Trust God to give you what you need for right now. Let Him guide you in His Truth and you’ll end up right where you’re supposed to be.
On a good day, when we give directions and discipline to our kids we ask them for their hands and eyes. Because if we have their hands, we’re connected (and there’s a better chance they’ll hold still for a minute) and when we have their eyes, we have their attention. When we meet our children’s gaze, we know they’re listening, they’re watching us, and there’s a much better chance they’ll follow our instructions or hear our correction.
It got me thinking about my relationship with God and where are my eyes, where is my gaze? The Bible says:
“The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy,your whole body will be full of light. But if your eyes are unhealthy,your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness!”
But what does that mean for how we live, for how we relate to God?
If I want a life that is defined by God’s grace and love, my eyes must be fixed on Him.
It means staying out of comment sections and unfollowing people who are toxic on social media.
It means paying more attention to where I go and what I do when I’m sad, angry, stressed, or bored.
It’s paying attention to what kind of television I watch, what videos I stream, and how long I keep my gaze fixed on them.
I don’t want to miss anything God has for me because I’m distracted, distraught, or unavailable.
In my work as a physical therapist I occasionally work with patients who are suffering from vertigo. They feel like the world is spinning around them or they’re spinning around in the world. I think sometimes we get spiritual vertigo. This world can be dizzying with its demands, distractions, and temptations. As a way to cope with the symptoms of vertigo, I tell them to pick an object in front of them, focus their gaze, and walk toward it. In Proverbs, God instructs us to live in a similar way:
“Let your eyes look directly forward, and your gaze be straight before you. Ponder the path of your feet; then all your ways will be sure. Do not swerve to the right or to the left; turn your foot away from evil.”
God wants our attention, He wants our eyes, our gaze. He wants to know we’re thinking about Him, seeking Him, and that we love Him. And in turn, if we seek Him, if we’re looking to Him for our meaning, our direction, and our fulfillment, He will honor us with His Presence, His guidance, and His Love.
“Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.”
It’s not always sin that distracts us from running the race God has set before us. Sometimes there are good things that take our gaze from God, promising they can fulfill us. But God calls us to singular pursuit – Him. If we love Him, we will love our neighbors. If we seek Him, He will be found and will give us direction. If we look to Him for meaning, He will sustain us in all our earthly duties and callings.
What are some of the things that distract you from seeking God? How can you refocus your time and energy on pursuing God in the coming year?
“One thing have I asked of the Lord, that will I seek after: that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to gaze upon the beauty of the Lord and to inquire in his temple.”
Today is the one year anniversary of A New Heart Life! Thanks for sticking with me on this writing journey. It’s been an amazing, challenging year. But here we are, at the end of one year and the beginning of another. Some people make New Year’s resolutions, others pray for a word or two that will define their upcoming year. I want to take a moment to pray blessings over us as we step into the new year. If we take it, a new year can be a new start. It can be a chance to reset, to examine where we are and where we want to be. It can be a time of reflection and growth. I hope that as you look back over last year, you see how far you’ve come on your journey with God and you hold onto His promises for your life in the upcoming year.
“Remember not the former things,
nor consider the things of old.
Behold, I am doing a new thing;
now it springs forth, do you not perceive it?
I will make a way in the wilderness
and rivers in the desert.”
May this be a year of breakthrough. May we live out our salvation as fully surrendered children of the One True God.
May we be fully alive, embracing the life He has promised for us.
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.”
Father, strengthen our faith in you that we may live courageous lives, relying on you for our strength. Pour out your power on us as we walk forward in Your Truth, sharing our lives and our hope with the world around us.
Deliver us from fear. Let us lean wholly on Your love.
“There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear.”
Teach us to trust You completely, worship You only, and walk with You always.
Overflow our hearts with Your love. May it splash out onto others. May we be a people defined by our love for You and for the world. Reveal Your image in those we meet, even those who do not walk with you. May we recognize that all people are made in Your image and treat all humanity with dignity and respect; even when we disagree, even when evil distorts your perfect creation. Let us love with a love like Yours, a love willing to sacrifice its own interest to save others.
“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.”
Give us a hunger for your Truth. May we pursue You through Your Word, in prayer, and in community with others deeper than we ever have before. Strengthen our relationships with our sisters and brothers in Christ. May we stand together in your Truth.
Grant us grace to meet the needs of the people around us. May we be patient, gentle, and kind. Grow Your fruit in us. Give us fresh hope to complete the works You have prepared for us.
“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.”
Thank you Jesus for the salvation you won for us. Thank you that Your blood covers us, cleanses us from all wrongdoing, and delivers our souls from evil. Thank you for sharing Your power and glory. Thank you for allowing us to participate in restoring your good creation and bringing Your Kingdom to earth. Thank you for fresh starts, for do-overs, and for forgiving us every single time we ask. Thank You for showing us the Way to You.
“Peace to the brothers and sisters, and love with faith from God the Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. Grace to all who love our Lord Jesus Christ with an undying love.”
Thank you all for your love and support over the last year. Let’s jump into 2020 renewed and strengthened in His Love. Meg
On this Christmas Day, I’d like to take a moment to reflect on the reason we celebrate:
God came to us.
He met us in our sin, in our brokenness and crossed the great distance between us to step into our world. But He didn’t come as a powerful king on a throne or a general with soldiers and power. He came as a vulnerable baby to be with us, to rescue us. He stepped down from His throne of power to become a helpless infant, dependent on his earthly parents for survival. He grew up as a boy, cared for and loved by His human parents. And He grew into a Man who led by example with great humility and compassion, ultimately sacrificing Himself so we may come close to our Father again.
He triumphed over every temptation faced by people. He avoided all opportunities for sin. He associated with the weak, the outcast, and the immoral, pulling them close, healing their hearts and bodies.
He challenged human ideas about power, wealth, and status. He turned our worldly ideas upside-down. He was so feared by the religious elite, the wealthy, and the ruling class that they murdered Him.
Jesus is a Lover of souls, a Healer of hearts, and the Way back to God. Christmas means God is with us. No matter where we are or what situations we’re facing, Jesus is close to us. He walks with us through every failure, every rebellion, and pulls us back to Love.
This Christmas, let us draw near to God and to each other. Let us live in gratitude by His example. May we be found with those on the underside of justice, bringing the Light into the darkness.
I pray the assurance of God’s Presence rests upon your heart today and every day as you move forward into the new year.
“the Lord himself will give you the sign. Look! The virgin will conceive a child! She will give birth to a son and will call him Immanuel (which means ‘God is with us’).”
The story of Christmas is said to be the greatest ever told. It’s the story of the Creator of the Universe, the All-powerful One, “I Am” coming down and humbling Himself, taking the form of an infant human in order to save the world. I love hearing the story. This year as I was reading through it, I was struck by Mary’s faith as she carried the Messiah in her womb. And as I continued reading, there was Joseph, himself faithful to be the earthly father the Son of God. They both took incredible risks and demonstrated great trust in God and in one another parenting the Promised One, the Savior of the world.
The Faith of Mary
“In the sixth month the angel Gabriel was sent from God to a city of Galilee namedNazareth, to a virgin betrothed to a man whose name was Joseph,of the house of David. And the virgin’s name was Mary. And he came to her and said, “Greetings,O favored one,the Lord is with you!” But she was greatly troubled at the saying, and tried to discern what sort of greeting this might be. And the angel said to her, “Do not be afraid, Mary, foryou have found favor with God. And behold,you will conceive in your womb and bear a son, andyou shall call his name Jesus. He will be great and will be called the Son ofthe Most High. And the Lord Godwill give to him the throne ofhis father David, and he will reign over the house of Jacobforever, and of his kingdom there will be no end.”
And Mary said to the angel, “How will this be, since I am a virgin?”
And the angel answered her, “The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you; therefore the child to be born will be called holy—the Son of God. And behold, your relative Elizabeth in her old age has also conceived a son, and this is the sixth month with her who was called barren. For nothing will be impossible with God.” And Mary said, “Behold, I am the servant of the Lord; let it be to me according to your word.” And the angel departed from her.”
By becoming pregnant out of wedlock, Mary risked being executed for adultery. In those days the maternal mortality rate was high and she risked complications during her pregnancy and dying in childbirth. But Mary depended on God. She believed the promise the angel delivered to her, that she would be protected and would deliver the Son of God without complication and raise Him to adulthood.
But Mary didn’t just risk bodily harm or death by carrying the Messiah. She also risked her relationship with her fiance Joseph by carrying a child that wasn’t his. And even if Joseph didn’t end the relationship or have her executed, he may resent her for their entire marriage for having to raise a son not biologically his.
Mary also knew being Jesus’ mother would bring her pain. It was foretold by Simeon when Jesus was dedicated in the temple:
“Andhis father and his mother marveled at what was said about him. And Simeon blessed them and said to Mary his mother, “Behold, this child is appointed for the fall and rising of many in Israel, and for a signthat is opposed (and a sword will pierce through your own soul also), so that thoughts from many hearts may be revealed.”
Being the mother of God would not be easy, but Mary trusted her Father and became the most blessed among women.
“And Mary said,
“My soul magnifies the Lord, and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior, for he has looked on the humble estate of his servant. For behold, from now on all generations will call me blessed; for he who is mighty has done great things for me, and holy is his name.”
The Faith of Joseph
“Now the birth of Jesus Christtook place in this way. When his mother Mary had been betrothed to Joseph, before they came together she was found to be with childfrom the Holy Spirit. And her husband Joseph, being a just man and unwilling to put her to shame, resolved to divorce her quietly. But as he considered these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, “Joseph, son of David, do not fear to take Mary as your wife, for that which is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. She will bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus,for he will save his people from their sins.” All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had spoken by the prophet:
“Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son,
and they shall call his name Immanuel”
(which means, God with us). When Joseph woke from sleep, he did as the angel of the Lord commanded him: he took his wife, but knew her not until she had given birth to a son. And he called his name Jesus.”
No one would have blamed Joseph if he had quietly dissolved his relationship with Mary upon finding out she was pregnant with a baby who wasn’t his. We may not have read about him in the Bible, but if he’d still made it in there, he would have been an honorable man. After all, agreeing to marry Mary meant Jesus would be his first-born son, the heir to his household. He would essentially be adopting her Son and raising Him as his own. But Joseph was not just a man of integrity, he was a man of faith. When the angel visited him, he trusted God. He took on the risk of being head of the earthly family of the Messiah, the Chosen One.
When Herod threatened his family, Joseph, along with Mary and their Child, fled to Egypt, becoming refugees. He left his home, his extended family, and his livelihood to protect the Messiah from the murderous wrath of the king.
“Now when they had departed, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream and said, “Rise, take the child and his mother, and flee to Egypt, and remain there until I tell you, for Herod is about to search for the child, to destroy him.” And he rose and took the child and his mother by night and departed to Egypt and remained there until the death of Herod. This was to fulfill what the Lord had spoken by the prophet,“Out of Egypt I called my son.”
Joseph embraced Jesus as his Son, teaching Him the carpentry trade. But all the while, Joseph knew he was Jesus’ earthly father and that His Father in Heaven was the ultimate authority.
A Marriage of Faith
Both Mary and Joseph risked everything to be faithful to God. Fleeing the country to protect their Son separated them from all earthly support systems. They relied on God for provision, for safety, and trusted they were raising the Savior of the world – together.
And when they returned to Nazareth, they risked scoffing looks and gossip about their family. How many knew Mary was pregnant at their wedding? And what about as Jesus grew up and he didn’t look like His father Joseph?
What a love story! What incredible trust between them and faith in the Father of all.
Maybe that’s why God chose them to be the earthly parents for His Son, because of their great faith in Him, their incredible relationship with each other, and their willingness to be living sacrifices for the Lord their God.
What a marriage! I mean, can you imagine having a relationship built on mutual trust and service to God? It’s absolutely incredible. May we all aspire to their faithfulness.
I’ll admit to being in a spiritual funk for the last few weeks. I was discouraged by prayers I didn’t see answered and dreams unfulfilled. Doubt set in about hearing and understanding God. I wondered if it was time to give up, stop praying, stop dreaming, stop hoping. I find when I feel completely out of control, when what I think is best doesn’t appear to be happening, it can trigger an anxiety down spiral. I find myself asking, “Is God good? Does He care? Does He even see what’s going on?”
Sometimes the answer to our questions and the confirmation He cares lands unprompted right in our arms. His Presence just comes close and we find the strength to press on.
I’m still waiting to see Him move in power in the circumstances around me. And I know many who are also struggling with forgotten promises and impossible dreams. Losing loved ones. Waiting for healing. Stuck in an unfulfilling job. Wondering if life can be bigger than repeating the same cycle day after day and week after week. People who feel alone – in marriages, in friendships, in families.
Still we press on.
We have a hope in us that will not fail and cannot give up. Because we know how the story ends. What we see now, in the flesh, is not all there is. We know there is a reality beyond what we can see here.
There is more to life.
Through divorce, addiction, violence, and affliction. Triumphs and heartaches. Celebration and mourning. On the mountaintop and in the valley. Through love, loss, reunions, and separation.
We press on.
Because the hope we hold is greater than anything this world has to offer and the security we have in Christ can never be stolen away. Our treasure, our prize, our crown is in Heaven, along with our Savior.
We press on.
Because Jesus is at the finish line. He waits for us – the first victor over death promises we will share in His victory in the end. We press on – following the model of our Savior.
Life is hard. It’s full of obstacles and disappointments. At times we feel overwhelmed and out of control. We feel hollow and lost.
Why do we keep going even when it’s hard? Why do we hope even when the darkness surrounds us?
Because God is still moving. He is still in control. We can find victory in Christ, here, now.
Through Christ we have hope for this life and for the next.
Hold your head up brave warrior, beloved child. We are made new – now. He walks with us – now. Our King is victorious. And He’s coming back.
We press on.
“We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested in our bodies. For we who live are always being given over to death for Jesus’ sake, so that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our mortal flesh. So death is at work in us, but life in you.
So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.”
2 Corinthians 4:8-12,16-18
I pray today you feel God come close to you as you walk through life. I pray you find the strength to continue to hope in the promises of God and that you are strengthened by His Spirit to continue to work for good in this world. I know He is real. I know He is near. And I know He is good. Be encouraged today as we press on together.
Last week one of my favorite Christian entertainers was exposed for sexual sin. I found myself angry and sad at the same time. One of my friends, who was also a fan, texted me saying she too felt angry with him, as well as with sin itself, and sad for the people he’d hurt. I saw threads online where people expressed anger while others seemed to want to pardon the behavior immediately, because forgiveness, right? I’m not sure that sits so well with me. Yes, we must forgive. But it’s usually a process, not something that happens immediately. The other thing that occurred to me is that ALL sin has consequences. Whether in the physical or spiritual, immediate or delayed, there’s always a price to pay for sin. It separates us from God and often from our Christian brothers and sisters. How should that play out? Is there room for reconciliation? I believe relationships can be restored but only through the healing blood of Jesus. Whether or not leadership can be restored, I’m honestly not sure. Jesus doesn’t mince words when it comes to leaders who lead their followers down a sinful path:
“And he said to his disciples, “Temptations to sin are sure to come, but woe to the one through whom they come!It would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck and he were cast into the sea than that he should cause one of these little ones to sin.”
He does continue saying:
“Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him,and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him.”
Luke 17: 3-4
Forgiveness is offered to those who turn away from their sin. But what about avoiding it in the first place?
My friend and I exchanged messages and she asked some great questions: “Who was he accountable to? Who was pastoring him?”
It’s something we should all consider for ourselves. Who can we go to when we’re in trouble? When we want to avoid trouble? Who speaks God’s holiness into our lives and helps us stay on the narrow path following Jesus?
I don’t personally care for the phrase “accountability partner” because I think it sounds more like an arrangement than a relationship, but it’s a good concept to think about. Because we all face temptation and we need someone who is willing to walk the path to righteousness with us. I talked a little bit about it in “The Importance of Christian Friends” (Click here) but I want to explore the accountability aspect of friendship further today.
It’s difficult to be accountable in isolation. When the shame of our past failures and the appeal of present temptations come to visit, there aren’t many who are strong enough to walk away without the strength and support of a true friend. Yes, the Holy Spirit always provides a way out:
“No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted,he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.”
1 Corinthians 10:13
But finding the door out of a situation can be difficult when we’re standing in the dark. A friend can see our situation from another angle and even provide a little light so we can find our way out.
Friends who hold us accountable inspire us on our journey toward wholeness and holiness. They walk beside us when we’re doing well, not just when we’re struggling. They see the good and call it out of us.
I have multiple women in my life who hold me accountable. But they can only enter in to the degree that I let them in. Accountability demands vulnerability. It can’t be accomplished through shallow conversation or in passing friendship. It demands time and a commitment to each other’s well-being. This kind of deep friendship is costly. It may mean late nights and making time for face to face conversation. In a world of busyness, a friendship of accountability means finding time to sit down and actively listen to another person. It means adjusting our priorities and putting another person at the top of the list.
“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”
It’s against the grain and contradictory to culture, for sure. It’s not Instagram worthy and can be full of ugly tears and uncomfortable conversation. But it’s worth it. Because Jesus is worth it. He calls us to holiness, to Himself. And if we are following His example, we will stand in unity with other believers, dive deep into friendships, and pursue holiness together.
Do you have someone who holds you accountable in your walk with Christ?
If not, pray for opportunities to connect with other believers on a deeper level. And if there aren’t any, make them. See my article “Created for Connection” (Click here) for more ideas on how to connect with other believers in a deep and meaningful way.